ACOD Writer's Block

 
I have been an ACOD for almost 5 years. I only began writing a little over a year ago. In the past , my mind was racing, everything I was thinking about , processing, having to physically deal with, and practically do after the fall-out of my parent's marriage came fast and furious.
 
Now, I still have a lot to process and new information from the past, or new situations of today come into my world, but the daily mental and emotional and physical toll has become lessened with time and my ACOD thoughts do not consume me, and life is at a more normal pace again.
 
My writing at first mimicked what I describe above.  Words came, thoughts came, things counselors said were fresh and I wrote.
You read . And I am grateful for what it has meant.
 
Now , my thoughts come less often and less intense. I am often not sure what other ACODS want to hear.  At first I was hoping for more comments and interaction, but I realize this is a personal , painful experience and I found people wanted to read , more than respond.
 
I would love some feedback as to what the readers of this blog WANT to hear.  I would love to know what their biggest struggles are at the time.  I want to feel what they are going through right at the moment.  That will help me know what to write so Time For Serenity truly is a place to come for a bit of help and hope.
 
SO..... send me an email at Serenitytime8@gmail.com
 
I would love topics, situations, other topics that maybe aren't even ACOD related to write about , if you want to keep reading..... So I am counting on you to help this "writer's block"!!
 
 

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