Do I Have A Bargain For You!!!!
Adult Children of Divorce can spot a bargain when they see it! But they can't always see when it is a form of begging and something of which they should be leery. We've talked about the stages of Loss/Denial and Anger and now enters the stage of divorce/grief that is titled "bargaining". As I thought of how to describe it to you, the word bargain brought to mind the way it is used in the act of shopping or spending money. When there is something that you want, you are required to pay a price for it. Usually the more valuable the item, the higher the cost to you. If we think the price is too high, or more than we can afford to pay, we begin to bargain. We ask, or beg the seller to lower the price, or make the cost less oppressive. If we get them to give us what we want , we say we got a bargain. We got what we wanted, the valuable item, but we know we didn't have to pay what it was worth. Bargaining in grief or divorce is described below by Elisa