Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Welcome, About Me and Topics





 I have had some trouble getting my pages to show up in the header bar...so this is the best I can do  :)
 
WELCOME:  Creating a place for Adult Children of Divorce of every age to come for a bit of hope and help has been a desire of mine as I have navigated the rough waters of finding my place within the aftermath of my parent's divorce.  The counsel I have found and from which I have benefited in the past few years is what I will share with all of us in an effort to encourage us that we are not alone and there is hope. May this place be where we can all go to move us toward times of serenity and peace within our circumstances.

 

ABOUT ME:

I am a 40 some thing adult child of divorce who has been married more than 20 years myself. My parents divorced within the past few years after years of what I thought was family closeness and no sign of what was coming. Within the past few years I have received wonderful help and counsel and I want to share with others who are going through a parent's divorce. You may be 20 or 50 and experiencing this change in your life and I hope we can help each other heal and move forward.

          Contact me at serenitytime8@gmail.com if you would like to chat about something personally.

 

 

The general order of topics is as follows below...and How to navigate to certain topics:  On the LEFT upper corner of the toolbar, click on Sidebar and then go to either snapshot or flipcard, to scroll through the different posts. OR use the search box in the upper right hand corner to type in a topic.


JANUARY TOPICS : Help and Hope

Grief

Bonds Unravel

Pain

Anger

 

FEBRUARY TOPICS: Anger

Counseling

Bargaining

Triangles

Honesty

Depression

Waiting

Boundaries

 

MARCH TOPICS: Accepting Change

Forgiving Parents

Time For Serenity

Things/Objects of Meaning

House

Rings

 

APRIL TOPICS: Postcard

Holidays

Recipe

Photo Album

Pathway

 

JUNE/JULY : Reflecting and Writing again

 

AUGUST:

Acods and Listening

Acods and Materialism

Acods and Identity

 

SEPT/OCT:

New Look to Blog

Serenity Prayer Extended Version and Worksheet

Simplicity

Why do we Blog???

 

NOV/DEC:

ACOD Serenity Prayer

ACOD Fathers and Mothers

Things Still Aren't Right This Christmas
 

JAN/FEB/MARCH:

Blog Anniversary

Grandchildren of Divorce

Keep Going!

ACODs and affairs

Forward and Back

 

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

ACOD Forward and Back


Adult Children of Divorce heal.  We move forward.  We laugh again and have some hope for a happy future.  We walk , looking ahead. 

That is what I experienced a few days ago.  I was looking for some old photos and spent time going through many old photo albums.  I saw photos of a once-together, happy family.  Amazingly, I could view these photos from the past without bawling and with actually feeling warm feelings of what we had in the past. I didn't feel like I was grieving what we lost, but instead I was able to be thankful for what we had.
Moving forward felt good.  I was grateful I had come so far.

Then.... 

I stopped in my tracks and began to move one step back.  I won't go into detail about what it was THIS time, but I think all ACODs know this phenomena.  It can be a new story you hear from a relative or past neighbor about something you never knew before concerning your parents marriage.  It sometimes is a phone call.  Or a decision you need to make.  It can be driving in a car past a familiar place that was special to your family in years past.  SOOOO many things can cause us acods to take a step back and grieve a bit again.  The evidence that I am healing and moving forward helped the blow of my stepping back.

Adult children of divorce step back.  We stop for awhile.  We grieve again and wonder what the future holds.   But we keep walking. One step at a time.  One foot in front of the other. 


Topics

JANUARY TOPICS : Help and Hope
Grief
Bonds Unravel
Pain
Anger

FEBRUARY TOPICS: Anger
Counseling
Bargaining
Triangles
Honesty
Depression
Waiting
Boundaries

MARCH TOPICS: Accepting Change
Forgiving Parents
Time For Serenity
Things/Objects of Meaning
House
Rings

APRIL TOPICS: Postcard
Holidays
Recipe
Photo Album
Pathway

JUNE/JULY : Reflecting and Writing Again

AUGUST:
Acods and Listening
Acods and Materialism
Acods and Identity

SEPTEMBER:
Serenity Prayer Worksheet
ACODs and Simplicity
A New Look to the Blog!!
Serenity Prayer Extended Version/Worksheet
Simplicity
Why do we Blog???

NOV/DEC:
ACOD Serenity Prayer
ACOD Fathers and Mothers
Things Still Aren't Right This Christmas

Grandchildren of Divorce
ACODs and Affairs
Keep Going
ACOD Forward and Back
Lord' Prayer ACOD version
Ripple Effect
Grief Revisited
Too Many Choices
ACOD Times To Remember
Telling the Truth
Behind the Curtain

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