The Lord's Prayer : Adult Children of Divorce Version



Matthew 6:9-13 is one record of the Lord's Prayer.  Jesus prayed!!  If he needed to, so do I!!   After teaching about rules ( Matthew 5 and 6) , murder, adultery, divorce, vengeance, enemies, giving to the needy ( and who says Jesus isn't relevant?) , etc.....he comes to the topic of prayer.

He tells his disciples ( and us) HOW to pray.  The Lord's Prayer gives us a format.

God knows I have spent much time thinking and praying about rules, adultery, divorce, vengeance, etc, and MORE since my parent's late-life divorce.  Here's my attempt to use Jesus' format to give an example of what conversation between us ACODs and God may look like.  May it get all of us started talking to God!!!

Our Father in Heaven       Some of us have lost relationship with our earthly fathers or mothers and we still need what a father or mother can give

Hallowed Be Your Name   Who you are is holy, set apart from all other fathers and mothers ---and may it stay that way!

Your Kingdom Come        We have created little kingdoms of "family" and "society", but there is MORE!!

Your Will Be Done        We see life from one perspective, you see it all!!

On Earth as it is in Heaven      Please bring a bit of your love, justice and sovereignty into our worlds today

Give us today our Daily Bread     Give us today what we need to survive and be nourished

Forgive our Debts         We fall short of giving you what you deserve and we have failed others....forgive us

As we also Forgive our Debtors    Others have failed and hurt us and may continue to. Help us to keep forgiving!

And lead us not into temptation    Protect us from facing tempting decisions and help us to stay away from those situations if we can

But Deliver Us from the Evil One    If we are ready to fall into sin, please come and take us away from he who is and all that is opposite of you!!!

(For Thine is the Kingdom , Power and Glory Forever and Ever Amen)     It's not about us, but about YOU!!  Help us remember that.


START praying!!  KEEP praying!!  DON'T STOP!!!


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