Top Ten Reasons Adult Children React Negatively When Parents Divorce
1. The adult child’s sense of normalcy, security and support is taken away.
2. The adult child is positioned between his or her parents and often a difficult decision of supporting one over the other is forced upon them.
3. The adult child is put in a situations of answering to family and friends about a parents poor choices.
4. The adult child often is a part of conflict with his or her siblings as a result of the parent’s divorce and the way each sibling thinks and acts as a result.
5. The adult child has to answer to his or her children about compromising lifestyle choices of their grandparent and may watch as family values decline as the younger generation watches the older generations behavior.
6. The adult child may need to make sacrifices in their own life to help and support a parent that is alone.
7. The adult child may see strain and conflict in their own marriage resulting in the stress that the profound changes in the family have caused.
8. The adult child may lose relationship with long-time family and friends when allegiances are made.
9. The adult child will make their own decisions , as an adult, and often a parent will not respect that, still viewing their child as a child.
10. The adult child cannot feel the love of a parent who has initiated the divorce, instead, the pain is overwhelming, having come from a former viewed trusted, and loving parent.