Adult Children Of Divorce and Grief
When I first became aware of the stages of grief, I assumed that I would experience it firsthand when someone close to me died, not when my parents divorced in my adulthood. As I cried my way through the first days and months of the shock of what was about to happen to my family of orgin, the pain was deep and unbearable at times. Before the tears came readily and daily I seemed to walk around from task to task while hours ticked away in my day, as I functioned on auto-pilot, but my thoughts were consumed with the surprise and disbelief that my father had another love and would leave my mother and what we knew and loved of family to be with her. I reasoned that he would reconsider, that the affair wasn't as serious as it seemed, and that all would eventually be OK. Little did I realize that I was experiencing the Stages of Grief due to the great pain and loss that I was experiencing. The Stages of Grief are expressed by various words in different grief literature. I wil