Monday, April 16, 2012

The Pathway




The Serenity Prayer for Adult Children of Divorce

God grant us adult children of divorce the serenity
to accept that things won't be the same in our families;
courage to change things for the best when we can;
and wisdom to know what is up to us, and what isn't.

Living one day at a time; and handling one situation that arises at a time; 
Enjoying good past memories and enjoying each present moment as much as we are able,  as we ultimately look to the future.

Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Trying to live as He did in this sinful world, accepting it as it is and not as

we wish it were.
Trusting that He will make all things right in our inner spirits and in the last chapter of our story, if we surrender to His Will;
That we may be reasonably content in this life
and supremely whole and in communion with God forever in the next.
Amen.


What adult child of divorce doesn't want peace?  But who wants to go through hardship to get there?  Our pathway as adult children of divorce is rough.
The road is rugged , filled with turns and twists we could have never imagined.
And it is a road that only we can walk.  Others who have walked similar roads will be our best guides, but it is a journey for us to take ; one step at a time.


My first blogs helped us walk through the waters of grief as adult children of divorce.  The next blog theme took us on memory lane as we saw what the true meaning is of some of our dearest objects and "things" that remind us of our pasts.  The items , such as our childhood homes, photos, rings and recipes, now are reminders of our hardship.  The hardship caused by loss of the things themselves, but more so the loss of the things they represent.  The security , belonging, promises and shared life of the past has changed.  This is our hardship.

Our sense of true inner serenity or peace comes when we realize intellectually and spiritually, in the depths of our souls, that genuine security, belonging, and connectedness, comes not from the outward circumstances in which we find ourselves, nor comes from the imperfect people around us ( including ourselves).  These things are subject to change and they are temporal.  Someone or something that is greater than ourselves and is not dictated by the same limits we succumb to in our earthly existence can offer us true serenity   in this life and genuine peace in the next. 

I have held to a strong belief and spiritual experience in the God represented by Christianity for many many years , and nothing in my life has tested this as greatly as my parent's divorce.  After four long years, I can say that I am convinced even more that God is just, loving and true . His character gives me something that transcends life's hardships and helps me realize that often there is more going on in my "story" than what I perceive.

I pray that your pathway of the hardship of your parents divorce will lead you to a deeper sense of true HOPE and HELP and PEACE than you ever thought possible.


Psalm 16:11   "  You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me
                          with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your
                            right hand. "

Luke 1:78, 79  "  ...because of the tender mercy of our God, by which the rising
                           sun will come to us from heaven  (Jesus) to shine on those
                              living in darkness and in the shadow of death, to guide
                           our feet into the path of peace."  

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JANUARY TOPICS : Help and Hope
Grief
Bonds Unravel
Pain
Anger

FEBRUARY TOPICS: Anger
Counseling
Bargaining
Triangles
Honesty
Depression
Waiting
Boundaries

MARCH TOPICS: Accepting Change
Forgiving Parents
Time For Serenity
Things/Objects of Meaning
House
Rings

APRIL TOPICS: Postcard
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A New Look to the Blog!!
Serenity Prayer Extended Version/Worksheet
Simplicity
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ACOD Fathers and Mothers
Things Still Aren't Right This Christmas

Grandchildren of Divorce
ACODs and Affairs
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ACOD Forward and Back
Lord' Prayer ACOD version
Ripple Effect
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Too Many Choices
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