The Seasons




We have weathered a few seasons together as we have taken time for serenity amidst our sometimes chaotic lives as adult children of divorce.  I am grateful for each person who has read my perspective as an ACOD over the past few months. The seasons have changed since I began blogging and now I plan to enter a season of rest from blogging for awhile. I am not sure how long this rest will be, but while I take a season of rest , you may be finding this blog in a season of panic or shock or depression.  I encourage you to look at the subjects and titles below to find posts that may be of most help to you where you are today. Then come back and visit the site on another day when there is another need you may have.  You will find a bit of help and hope when you find time for serenity.

Feel free to contact me personally via my email  serenitytime8@gmail.com  and I will be sure to respond.  

**** Go to the main page and on the left top, you can click on the lines . That will take you to the Article Archives and the list of topics is complete there. There are more than listed below.  If you find a topic you want, go to the search in the top right of the main page and type it in. 


JANUARY TOPICS  :     Help and Hope
                                         Grief
                                         Bonds Unravel
                                         Pain
                                         Anger

FEBRUARY TOPICS:    Anger
                                         Counseling
                                         Bargaining
                                         Triangles
                                         Honesty
                                         Depression
                                         Waiting
                                         Boundaries

MARCH TOPICS:          Accepting Change
                                        Forgiving  Parents
                                        Time For Serenity
                                        Things/Objects of Meaning
                                        House
                                        Rings

APRIL TOPICS:            Postcard
                                        Holidays
                                        Recipe
                                        Photo Album
                                        Pathway

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