A New Look for my ACOD Blog

A blog for Adult Children of Divorce is an ever changing thing.  It is  like the lives of ACODs everywhere.  Some things stay the same, other things change with time.

After realizing that a new format will give you readers a chance to access the drop down tab on the top left where it says "side bar"   ,   the blog has a new look!!  I am hoping you will use the drop down the side bar choices and choose a page that shows all the post titles ( I think there are 48 now?) .  That will give you a chance to see all that you can read about at one time.  I hope this is helpful.

There are all the other features, but you may need to  hover your mouse over the categories vertically showing icons on the right side of the page. Explore the new format and hopefully you will find all the old things you liked and some new things that help you navigate the site too!  :)

Don't forget to use the white search box in the upper right corner, too!!

A new look, a fresh perspective is good for us all.  May you enjoy and better access the posts as you look for help and hope as an adult child of divorce. I appreciate you readers. It helps to know we are not alone!!

Sincerely,
Serenity

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